Marriage

I was reading an article on a blog the other day about marriage.

And this quote jumped off the page at me.

“Don’t look at someone else’s marriage and let it define yours.  The grass isn’t always greener on the other side and your marriage is as unique as your DNA.  What you do may not work for other people, but you’re not married to other people.  Make the choices and live the life that is right for the two of you and let go of your preconceived notions of what marriage is supposed to look like. Trust me, you’ll be so much happier that way.”

This statement could not be more true. It even brought me back to a time years ago when a friend judge my marriage. At the time Hubs was a coach and was gone a lot. And when I say a lot I mean Thursday nights, Friday nights, and Saturday mornings. She made the comment one night when we were all out eating dinner that she didn’t know how I did it with a child and my husband being gone so much and no help from him. She said she didn’t know how she would manage being by herself on the weekends.

At that point in our marriage, Hubs’ coaching wasn’t an issue, it worked for us. I didn’t mind him being gone. I looked at it as one on one time with my child. We had what I called date night on Friday nights. We would go to dinner and then to Toys R Us for him to pick out a treasure or two provided he behaved at dinner. Then as he got a little bit older, we would attend the games Hubs was coaching and more often than not our child was down on the field helping his daddy.

It worked like that for us for years. Then came along our second baby and Hubs and I talked about him retiring from coaching.

What I’m trying to say is marriage is work and it is constantly changing. You have to find what works best for the both of you. But with your hard work comes great big rewards and a happy life.